Any suggestions?
An angry female friend
#1
Posted 21 August 2006 - 11:32 AM
Any suggestions?
#2
Posted 21 August 2006 - 11:34 AM
btW this is a computer help forum
Edited by nerdcentral, 21 August 2006 - 11:34 AM.
#3
Posted 21 August 2006 - 11:41 AM
#4
Posted 21 August 2006 - 11:43 AM
For me, and I do speak from experience because I routinely dont know how to talk to women, not a disrespect thing, its I see 2 sides to everything, black and white. The women I know see gray.
But anyways, I would use the saying for this one, "Go big, or go home."
Do something really special for her, on her birthday, she will come around.
#5
Posted 21 August 2006 - 05:37 PM
#6
Posted 21 August 2006 - 05:41 PM
#7
Posted 21 August 2006 - 05:43 PM
#8
Posted 21 August 2006 - 05:59 PM
Good luck.
#9
Posted 21 August 2006 - 07:15 PM
Edited by †Gladiator†, 21 August 2006 - 07:16 PM.
#10
Posted 21 August 2006 - 07:53 PM
It’s her birthday – make the apology meaningful and sincere. Dig up some good memories or something and show her you care for her birthday - if she means this much to you it shouldn’t be that hard. 6 years of friendship is not something you want to go down the drain.
#11
Posted 22 August 2006 - 06:35 AM
Edited by fleamailman, 22 August 2006 - 06:38 AM.
#12
Posted 22 August 2006 - 07:40 AM
One biggy never express true feelings to women, womens minds work in starnge and mysterious ways and will find mens true feelings shocking and digsuting, unless you are some girly man and can think like they do but if you could do that you wouldnt be in the mess.
*sari rejects this advice.
One of the problems with relationships, friendship and otherwise, is that men won't express their feelings. I don't think it's necessary to be a "girly man", whatever that it - you just have to be willing to say what what you feel. In this case, you need to express remorse for what you did. I agree with Maiestas - a big show without sincerity will come across as meaningless. Think about what her friendship means to you, things you've done together that are important to your friendship. Small meaningful gestures mean more than big impersonal ones. Make your apology heartfelt.
If it helps, I speak from experience - I had a long-term relationship with someone who would neglect the important things, like our anniversary (went on trips with his friends every single year), but would go for big superficial things in front of his friends to try and make up for it. It was always meaningless, because it ignored what was really important.
#13
Posted 26 August 2006 - 08:27 AM
FWIW, a sincere apology beats gifts of diamonds and roses, and a willingness to admit you made a mistake shows a maturity girls/women find attractive.
Johanna
#14
Posted 26 August 2006 - 06:38 PM
The bottom line is you have to decided.
If I were to advice I would say have someone neutral deliver flowers to her.
With a note, offering a sincere apology and an invitation to meet so that you can make the apology in person.
#15
Posted 26 August 2006 - 07:02 PM
When I screw up I buy her roses or chocolate. I humble myself, I tell her what I did that was wrong, I tell her that I made a mistake and I ask for her forgiveness. The roses coupled with this approach work every time. There is something about a dozen long stem roses that makes a woman melt. lol. After that, give her TIME and SPACE. Wait for her to approach you. If you don't you will regret it.
You have to be careful with "gifts". It can easily seem like you are trying to buy her off, especially if you lack the humility and understanding that goes along with it.
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