So, what do you think? Wearing a loved one around your neck or on your finger?
Tue Apr 3, 2007 10:32AM EDT
BERLIN (Reuters) - A German woman's plan to turn her dead father's ashes into a diamond was thwarted Tuesday by her grandmother.
A district court in Wiesbaden ruled the 19-year-old could not take the cremated remains to Switzerland where a company creates synthetic diamonds from ashes.
"The daughter of the deceased could not provide sufficient proof that it was his final wish to be pressed into a diamond," the court in western Germany said, ruling in favor of his 86-year-old mother.
The court said the daughter's views on the care of the remains took precedence over the wishes of the dead man's mother but ruled that any decision had to be in accordance with the expressed wishes of the deceased.
The ashes are placed in a press under intense pressure and heat, replicating the forces that create a natural diamond, over a period of several months. Synthetic diamonds have been manufactured from carbon since the mid-1950s
Woman loses battle to turn dead dad into diamond
Posted 03 April 2007 - 05:22 PM
Posted 03 April 2007 - 06:21 PM
When my second husband died his oldest son, his brother and I put his ashes in the creek he and his Grandpap used to fish in. I'd be lying if I didn't feel funny knowing they were in the trunk on the drive to Pennsylvania. I can not imagine wearing a jewel created from the physical remains of a loved one. It's beyond tasteless. I'm older now, so I go to more funerals. There is something comforting about going to the church, hugging the family, going to the cemetery, closing the circle properly. Constructing a synthetic diamond may be possible, but is it proper?
I'm glad the court ruled for the grandmother.
Posted 03 April 2007 - 07:06 PM
It seems really tacky to me .. turning the remains of a human being into something useful or rather useless and showy! There are so many things we can keep that belonged to our loved ones that have meaning and generate closeness. Perhaps she wasn't intending to have the diamond set and perhaps it was her grief at not wanting to let go that led her to fight her grandmother.
The really sad thing is that all the publicity will probably generate a whole lot of people doing it!
Posted 04 April 2007 - 10:01 AM
i dunno...i guess i've just got different views on death...i don't really feel that what happens to the body after you die is terribly relevant...
perhaps the daughter was planning on having the diamond set for a wedding ring in the future? so that her father could be at her wedding and in her married life? maybe she needed some more "bling for her grill"?...i don't know why (well i know the instincts and genetic programming behind it) we as people are so fixated on a lifeless embodiment of what was once a loved one...isn't the memory and the love you feel for the person more important?
Posted 04 April 2007 - 12:10 PM
It's also scary that I agree with ya.
Moved to Serious Discussion.
Posted 04 April 2007 - 04:13 PM
I quite fancy when i go in the very distant future who ever is taking care of the left overs to drill a hole stick me in it and plant a really nice apple tree (or any nice tree) on top. Its either that or diamonds then getting launched into space(which to me is going out in the most stylish of fashions). When you are gone you are gone what does it matter what you do with what's left its not like you're going to be around to complain are you.
Besides if i was 89 i wouldn't be taking on the screwy grand daughter, she will probably have her made into a diamond along with the father when she kicks the proverbial bucket.
Edited by warriorscot, 04 April 2007 - 04:16 PM.
Posted 24 April 2007 - 05:04 PM
Seeing your relatives in a coffin is finite - I have seen my uncle in his coffin, but it didn't bother me, but turning family into jewelery? NO SIR - Not in my lifetime
Posted 24 April 2007 - 07:12 PM
Edited by hayabusa_mike, 24 April 2007 - 07:14 PM.
Posted 25 April 2007 - 11:40 AM
Posted 25 April 2007 - 11:59 AM
Posted 28 April 2007 - 10:21 AM
I think personally, I wouldn't want something like that though. I think I would opt for something else.. Maybe the choice of a biodegradable cardboard box will a tree on top- theres something 'ongoing' about a tree growing from you...
More on topic, I think that the ruling was fairly just... I mean, its a very big decision, and to make the choice for someone who has passed away when they haven't fully expressed a choice is such a tough problem to solve.
Posted 29 April 2007 - 03:14 AM
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