after quite a bit of research around the web I have eliminated a few things, and learned some as well.
the MoBo has 2 sata controller. a SiliconImage 3114 SATA and a VIA controller.
I know which ports on the MOBo are which controller.
only the Silicon Image controller sees the drive.
The Via controller sees my SATA DVD Burner just fine, and is used for the install of windows.
I understand how to switch the boot order in my bios from one controller to the other or to ide.
again my copy of windows has the sata drivers included in the package.
So i can get windows temp files copied to the drive and then the system reboots, after all the bios settings are right i get to a screen where the SiI controller lists the drives, which it does and shows my Toshiba as device 0. and thats it, the only keyboard input that does anything is ctrl-alt-del. the screen says to hit F$ or CTRL-s to enter utlity but that does nothing. i have waited over 30 mins at this sceen as well just to see if something would happen.
one more problem, I dont have access to a floppy drive.
any help on this would be greatly appreciated, Thanks.