In a dramatic twist of events I figured out that the Motherboard CPU socket got damaged ..so that's that for it, why is he not crying you ask well...
I got my OLD Motherboard to work..how it works you may ask:
1) I bought High Density Memory first time round not knowing that for the most part it is only as good as a paper weight made to look like a memory module
only found out after I had changed the mobo's over.
2)Bought correct Memory tried it and this is where I came in at post #37
3)Everything I was thinking seemed to point to the CPU, So checked it and noticed the socket was damaged (still no idea how it happened)
4) So. I decided in a last ditch attempt since I had not tried the correct memory in my OLD mobo to give that a go and Bingo it worked with the exception that 1 of the slots is indeed gone so I can only run 1 Gig on this motherboard but at least it is now working ...Running XP as if nothing had happened.
All things considering I can count myself lucky I have never ever changed or did much inside a computer before so.
I have learned so much during all of these er (Learning elements) or you could call them newbie stupidity if you like