Thanks for the suggestions. Sorry it has taken so long to get back but my life is not my own.
I went through setting up incoming connections before and tried it again based on the directions from the link Kieth provided but got the same results. I get an 800 error. When I go through the suggestions from that I get nowhere. I know the ports are all open and directed to my PC at home. Ports are also open at the remote location. I still cannot get through.
I also tried the remote desktop connections but cannot see any place where I tell the laptop to go to my home network to find the remote system. Did I miss something here?
I've tried VNC but found it extremely slow. I also didn't see where VNC would allow me to copy files from my home computer to my laptop.
Thanks again for all the suggestions. I appreciate the help everyone has offered.
PS If anyone is interested, Leo Laporte and Steve Gibson have started a series of Podcasts that will eventually explain how this is supposed to work. I'm following along but an episode a week is trying my patience. If anyone else is interested you can get more information here