[DragonMaster Jay]

and ill run for my life because i still have the fear of when i was a kid.

there's the problem.....too many parents confuse FEAR with RESPECT...they assume that if their child is AFRAID of them that they automatically respect them.....just a quick question...when you were a kid...how many times did you say "i hate my <mom/dad>...they're so mean"? (you may not have used the words hate....but how often did you express anger towards your parents to someone else because of the way they disciplined you)

Actually, fear is considered a reverence to superiority. If you remember the definition of reverence, you will see: profound awe and respect.

Although, saying respect and fear on the same line is usually contradicting, I do say that some parents do not know what fear means -- anyway.

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reverence is different than respect....reverence itself often suggests a marginal amount of fear towards that which is revered (as shown in Revere)

i.e. reverence towards god infers a fear thereof

though we're splitting hairs on that one

[dsenette]

reverence is different than respect....reverence itself often suggests a marginal amount of fear towards that which is revered (as shown in Revere)

i.e. reverence towards god infers a fear thereof

though we're splitting hairs on that one

[dsenette]

also...it should be noted that there is a BIG difference between fearing the consequences of one's actions and knowing the consequences of one's actions and making a decision based on the desire to not have those consequences

if a child is presented with a choice....which is the more fruitful thought process:

"i really shouldn't do that because my dad is going to whoop my butt something fierce"
or
"i really shouldn't do that because it's wrong for me to do it based on my knowledge of right and wrong"

one shows avoidance of retribution while the other shows acceptance of one's personal moral standards and a knowledge/understanding of "right and wrong"

[DragonMaster Jay]

It is wishful thinking that all children submit themselves to authority, almost always.

Children do things against adults, when adults try to control them. Such things that children do are: breaking the rules (always), resisting, rebelling, retaliating, daydreaming, bossiness, blaming others, lying, and deceiving.

The use of power involves two people in a specific relationship. Those children that get smacked are likely to get angry at their parents.

[dsenette]

Children do things against adults, when adults try to control them.

and there's the rub.....the difference between control and education/discipline

The use of power involves two people in a specific relationship. Those children that get smacked are likely to get angry at their parents.

indeed....raising kids is a lot like training dogs (or so i'm told...i've only done the later not the former)....if you train a dog by teaching it the rewards of good behavior then you're going to have a well balanced and obedient dog.....if you train a dog by using violence and physical aggression to prevent negative behavior...then eventually the dog's going to bite someone

[DragonMaster Jay]

Halo is not too demeaning.

Also, spending too much time on video games, and other things -- such as computers (my favorite)...is a way to save money. Don't get me wrong, but going out 4-5 times a week is a total waste. Why go out, when you can invite friends over and improve your relationships, by playing games?

Killing someone is NOT viable, and Halo is NOT a bad game.

Halo is not just the one that causes issues. Look at WoW. People get anxiety attacks over that, threaten to kill another person, or even go as far as throwing their computer out the window.

I could list all the games that bring up issues. It is how people view the games and how it affects their situation. Based on the effect of the game, will obviously symbolize a passionate gamer.

[Chopin]

I do remember a while back, a guy died from playing StarCraft for about 3 days straight, as in without a break or sleep...

Edited by Fredil, 09 May 2009 - 09:17 AM.

[Cold Titanium]

That's called "Lack of Self-Control"

[mkau]

To be honest, HALO is a great game in moderation. I have it, and I haven't played it in months. I've burned out on it. I've been playing BZFlag lately for a change.

[mpascal]

Any game can be a great game in moderation. There's a kid that lives about a half hour away from me who ended up dying after running away from home because his parents took away his xbox. The death was accidental, but it still shows how any game can be addicting. If you look at WoW, they've starting implementing things to reduce addiction such as timers and parental controls.