I don't normally do this but it might fit the occasion. I write a blog...(I know...me and fifty jillion other idiots) but I think from the comments here that most would appreciate a small essay I wrote on ADD. There's lots more where this came from so I did a blatantly commerical thing and included my URL at the bottom. If it isn't proper for me to do this please remove and I apologize for not knowing protocol.
Warning-obnoxious non-PC senile rant follows.
We have anywhere from four to seven grandchildren. The number varies with the status of the youngest daughter. She fosters children in her home and the state isn’t exactly consistent. Whatever the count, they are ours while they are in her home and we take advantage of it. There have been a few real heartbreaking episodes, especially little Hailie who was removed very suddenly after two years when adoption papers were filed and an obscure family member stopped the mess due to her partial Indian heritage. I will never forget the pain of having to say goodbye forever to a three year old doll who took half my heart with her. I still cringe when I think about her crawling on my lap as a tearful daughter whispered in my ear that I had to say goodbye-forever and I had ten minutes.
Anyways…on to my incessant rambling. One of the boys has been diagnosed with ADD. He is fifteen and they (school and doctor) claim he has had severe problems with the ability to concentrate for his entire life but they just now discovered it. His schoolwork was well below the level required for advancement but they did it anyway. They don’t want to traumatize him by separating him from his peers. [bleep]!
I don’t fault the teacher. Heaven knows they have their hands full and get paid a mere pittance of their worth, but have they really evaluated this or is it a way of pushing the problem off on someone else?
Sure, he has trouble with schoolwork but I assure you he has no trouble at all with concentration. This child can maneuver his way through the maze of the huge bookcase of video games in his room and remember every nook and cranny, every ghost or goblin, every gun toting [bleep], the location of every hidden missile or key, the status of every characters “power points” and the requirements to get to every level. This child has buffaloed these folks to no end and they will allow him to pass through their game without picking up any power points or extra life.
He counts on his fingers, has never read a book, does not know how to move decimal points around and couldn’t tell you where Philadelphia is located on a map with the names printed on it in huge letters. But he knows the words to every rap song recorded, including the four letter words and almost every line in every stupid [bleep] action movie released since Indy Jones stomped out of the jungle.
Our daughter says we don’t “understand” kids and what they have to put up with today. I might agree if they lived in a big city but Doofus, Oregon? (Fictional name) Give me a break. It is on the edge of the wilderness. Crime there is basically limited to Friday night cow-tipping sessions. But, she says, over half the students have ADD.
I’m probably going to get into serious trouble here but this “time-out” crap isn’t working. Parents “negotiate” punishment with their children, not apply it. I’m certainly not into beating children but I think a good swat on the [bleep] can work wonders for children. If I didn’t pay attention in school I knew I was gonna get my [bleep] kicked, not taken to a shrink to find out why I’m letting peer pressure ruin my self-esteem.
If I had my way, television, video games and all that crap would be a very minimal part of a child’s life. Families would NOT sit in front of the tube and eat at TV trays. They’d communicate while eating. But no; if a parent takes away the video games or the TV the feds will show up and send them off to Guano Bay for “cruelty beyond belief”.
I know, I’m just “old and in the way”. Take me now. I’m ready.