I'll give you all the details if that helps, and then i'd appreciate your opinion on what you all think?
It's a Mum's only forum, there are approximately 100 active users, and about 30-50 who come on intermittently.
One member decided to leave the forum on 16th Nov (for example purposes i'll call her Jane)
17th Nov a new user (i'll call her Sam for example purposes) registered, she was emailed the standard introductory email, asking her to give more info about herself i.e. are they ttc, have kids etc, are they on FB. There was no response.
25th Nov "Sam" created a facebook account, and she then replied on 12th December to the original email sent out on the 17th Novemeber to say who she was, how she found the forum and that she has a FB account.
New user seemed genuine, so was activated around 12th December.
Last week one of the moderators felt the new user was acting strangely (she was claiming to be a health professional, but her writing style seemed similar to the user who left in November and there were alot of similarities between the 2).
The moderators compared the IP's of the 2 users and found they matched.
Then another user found that the password to the "Sam's" email account matched the childrens names of "Jane" (old users) account.
In that email account, the person has forwarded the activation email they received to their own personal email account - which is the email account of the old user (Jane)
Jane is still on the original IP as she has tried logging onto the forum since last week and you can see her IP coming up.
The issue the forum moderators has is, why would "Sam" set "Jane" up?
Why would "Sam" forward the activation email to "Jane's" email account?
Why would "Jane" not contacte the forum to say that "Sam" has used her email account to set up an account on the forum (she would have seen the forwarded email surely), but "Jane" is saying the email went into her junk email so she didn't see it until last week - convenient!
"Jane" has said that apparently "Sam" has emailed her since all this came to light(she is trying to make out like it's not herself who's done this).
So in addition to this, if this "Sam" is real, then they know "Jane's" email address, her home address, ip address, children's names amongst other trivial information. Yet "Jane" has not contacted the police, and refuses to forward the apparent email she received last week from "Sam" to prove her innocence.
Well done if you managed to read to the end, i'm sorry if it's confusing to read.
As you can see, it is a trivial issue on the surface, however, the problem the forum has is that "Jane" was a well known member. This forum isn't like alot of others where they get lots of new accounts registering - everyone on the forum knows atleast one other person personally. The users have regular meet-up's - so it's not just a chat room where you could think you're speaking to a 32 year old Mum of 2 when really you're speaking to a 50 year old man called Max if you get what i mean?
Added to that, the fact that many of the members are ladies who are trying to conceive, so they come on for advice from friends and professionals. Now this fake user "Sam" pretended to be pregnant with twins, said she had fertility issues, and all the other users genuinely believed her and sent her well wishes etc. So as you can see, the reason it's upset people is because it's more personal than other forum arguments.
Thanks to anyone who can shed some light, we're basically just trying to see if there's any way the user could be telling the truth and what the odds of that are.
Edited by vicmcr2003, 13 January 2010 - 07:44 AM.