[Chopin]

Do you own a Wii?

Perhaps a game on that. Basically anything you can do to exert yourself.

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why is the guy touching the TV after? and wiggling it? would either of those fix the giant hole in the screen? dufus

[dsenette]

why is the guy touching the TV after? and wiggling it? would either of those fix the giant hole in the screen? dufus

[tyler kick you fase]

go complain about everything you hate then complain about yourself, thats what i do lol

[**Brian**]

I often get my anger out in the gym. Some people like cardio to get their anger out, personally I LOVE lifting weights for getting that stress and anger out. I mean I just kick my own butt in the gym pushing myself as hard as I can and channeling ALL of that stress and anger into the weights. It really takes some time to get it down pat, but once you can, it really becomes a VERY theraputic stress relief. You just go in and channel that anger.

Working out is the BEST way to allow you to vent your physical aggression in an appropriate way, in my opinion, because you will concentrate on using the machines, or weights, or working with the trainer or whatever, and if you feel anger, you will work harder and harder until you don't feel anger anymore. I have done that myself when something bothers me, and most times it works, because I feel relaxed, focusing on my trainers voice as I move forward (swimming) and he makes me laugh also, because if I compain he will throw me the "violin" and tell me he can't hear me

Exercise, or other activity to take your mind off your trouble will help you, but you will have to be able to eventually deal with the emotional and phycological aspects of the problem, because you can dull the pain, but you have to learn to deal with this too. for that, I suggest a therapist.

Lastly, one that isn't being discussed have you considered seeing a therapist? Here's why I say this, while this ONE BIG VENT will help for a few days to a week, the situation isn't changing, ergo you will become this stressed again. It isn't fair to yourself or the ones around you. I have gone to a therapist for about 4-5 years now and she has helped me out amazingly. With her help I am now off of antidepressents (I still take medicine for my ADHD ) and I now only go once every 3 mo or so just as a checkup, she doesn't think that I need it anymore but I feel more comfortable with her there. She actually is the one who suggested the above of workign out as a way to get rid of the stress and anger (which I would let get to the point of being almost just a blind rage) that was contributing to my depression.

I have been through 2 divorces and I can tell you from experience that going to a therapist and talking about this and other things on my mind helped me to put the past to rest. I had so much on my mind that it dragged me down, and made me snappy and unhappy, and angry in some ways too. a few sessions over a few months helped me to realize that most of my problems were somehow linked to past events or actions that I had not dealt with - I simply "ate it" and moved forward.

Pedro is right - You can get rid of physical pain or anger by doing something constructive, but you must also deal with your other pain, so I also suggest a therapist. One thing that I was told as a young boy was that my parents divorce was NOT my fault, so you should also not feel as if your parents splitting up is your fault - It is something that happens when people do not get along and cannot live together, or when they do not love each OTHER - I am sure that they love YOU, so so not feel as if this is your fault.

Good Luck!!

Brian

[hfcg]

My parents are splitting up, and I've been fine, but lately I've been really short tempered with everybody. I need someway to just take my anger out, just one huge vent. Any help?

While you know you are angry do you know who you are angry with?
When I get angry (and I have a short fuse) I am usually mad at myself, especially when I do something stupid.
A "self blow out", when you look in a mirror and let yourself have it (telling yourself off, even getting a little mad) helps to drain negative emotional energy so that you can deal with what is really bothering you in a positive way.
Give it a go, just look in the mirror and tell yourself what you really feel about yourself.

[fortune82]

Thanks for all the replies!

Mostly, I think the anger is towards my dad. While my mom has been giving me space, and telling me whats going on, my dad has been smothering me with attention, and I want to tell him to back off, but he's in such a fragile state that I don't know how he would take it.

It might be that, up until a few months ago, my mom was the main caretaker, but its sort of shifted to my dad. Maybe is just the exact opposite of how it was, but it feels as though my dad is crowding me.

[Troy]

If your Dad is crowding you, then tell him to back off. You need your own space to deal with the situation as well, and you aren't there to support him.

[tyler kick you fase]

i also like to listen a lot of death metal, its helps take anger out too.

[PedroDaGR8]

Bingo, in states like this, while it is good to help you family. It is NOT your responsibility. You are the child he is SUPPOSED to be the adult. You may try sitting him down like an adult and saying "Dad, listen, I know you love me and may be scared of losing me, please know that won't happen. WHile I say this, Dad, right now I need my space so I can deal with this as well." Something to that effect. Reassure him that you are not abandoning him, while at the same time getting the point across that you NEED your own space to handle your own issues.

[CompooterDummy]

I also work out when I'm angry. I love to cycle. But if I'm dealing with an anger that just keeps wanting to "rebirth" itself for some reason, I go to the punching bag. If I have a picture of what or who I'm angry at I put it on the bag. If that's not "safe" or possible, I create a representation of what I'm angry at by drawing it, or I've even made a collage once representing what I'm angry at. I attach it to the punching bag and pound the crap out of it until I'm so worn out I can't stand up anymore. The nice thing about a good punching bag is that you can also kick it. And, if you're growling, grunting, spittin', cussin', and yellin' while smacking around a punching bag, no one seems to think much of it. So, I get a bonus outlet for what ever it is that's stuck in my craw.

Anyway, sorry to hear what you're going through. As ugly as it is, "this too shall pass."

[mpascal]

I like playing drums when I'm angry.. something about pounding drums with mini wooden clubs makes me feel good

[DragonMaster Jay]

I like drums, too.

[Troy]

[mpascal]

Best. Emote. Ever.

Anyways to the OP I wish you luck with the situation you're currently in, with time everything will get better

[fortune82]

I would play my drums, 'cept we seem to have run out of places to put them. I do pound on my friend's set occasionally, though.